Sexuality

People differ in their views about sexual relationships. You may have already come to terms with this, but in case you haven’t, here are some thoughts. Keep in mind that your viewpoint may change over time and that’s ok. Having sex or making love is a basic human physiological function; the question is whether you view it from an emotional or recreational standpoint.

Physiologically, having sex or making love is a basic, healthy and pleasurable bodily function with a secondary purpose of procreation. It satisfies one of our physical needs similar to eating and sleeping.

Emotionally, people tend to be attracted to one and other because they care about each other. Sex or making love is then expressed in the context of that relationship. Some people feel that it is actually the ultimate expression of caring and choose to share this part of themselves only with a very special person. Many people choose to be even more selective and consider this form of sharing appropriate in the context of a committed long term relationship and/or marriage.

Recreationally, sex is viewed as an entertaining and pleasurable bodily function with little or no emotional context. There may or may not be an initial physical attraction or chemistry that proceeds the sexually activity. Generally, since there is no emotional component, there is no exclusivity promised either between partners.

Regardless of your viewpoint, everyone shares responsibility for their sexual decisions. Sex should be consensual and out of respect, no one should forced or taken advantage of especially if they are under the influence of alcohol or recreational drugs.

A responsible approach prior to engaging in a sexual activity, is to discuss viewpoints and health issues with a potential partner. Many people choose not to engage in impulsive sex prior to asking about sexually transmitted diseases, especially like Herpes, which is a life long affliction. The issue of HIV testing is becoming very significant, especially if either individual has had past partners.

Safe sex is also a shared responsibility. Protecting yourself and partner from the ramifications of sexually transmitted disease and pregnancy is critical. Condoms, and spermicidal products, are easily available. Birth control pills or devices can be arranged through the Student Health Center , a local Planned Parenthood Clinic, Community Clinic or a family health care provider.

If you have had unprotected sex, regardless of the circumstances, seek health care services at the Student Health Center, a Community Health Clinic or Hospital as soon as possible. While the issue of testing for sexually transmitted disease is important, there is also a window of time for women to consider some birth control options.

If you have had non-consensual sex, seek health care services immediately, and notify University Security or the local police department.